Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Picking a Car Seat for Your Little One

What a big decision it is to pick a car seat for your new baby. They car costly and there are a ton of choices. Just deciding on which one to register for can be challenge. There are right ways to install it and wrong ways to install it. There are color choices and different models. What it all comes down to is that you want you little one as safe as possible!

I don't have personal experience yet but the advice we received from friends was this:

1) Buy one of the infant carrier car seats but buy an extra base for the car seat. This allows both cars to be equipped. This is supposed to also prevent having to move a sleeping baby out of a car seat to take them in or out of the car.

2) Make sure the car seat you register for is compatible with the stroller you register for or just buy the stroller frame that fits the infant carrier to start. I have found in my research that Graco Snug Ride infant carriers seem to be the most versatile and highest rated. They also have an installation video you can watch.

3) Put your car seats (at least the base) in the car when your delivery window opens so that you don't have to worry about it after the baby arrives. You can also take your car with car seat to the local CHP for inspection to make sure it is installed correctly. You have to call ahead and make an appointment.

4) Don't buy a used car seat or use a hand-me-down if you can afford it. Safety regulations change all the time and if you buy it used you have no way of knowing if it was in an accident.

5) My Prepared childbirth class gave us this number for questions: Safety Belt Safe (800) 745- SAFE or online:

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

There's No Denying the Belly Now!

I spent a good portion of my pregnancy looking as if I had just stopped working on my abs and was gaining a little weight. I actually had a lady at Destination Maternity tell me "You don't look pregnant. You just look like you gained a little weight." This comment did not get her a sale and made me wonder if it is more acceptable to be over weight in America than it is to be pregnant...

Around week 23 things began to change. The belly took on more of a rounded look and stood out a little better. When we when to Hawaii for our baby-moon I wasn't concerned about putting the bikini on (okay I was a little concerned) because I knew that I didn't look fat, I looked pregnant. As things progress the belly is becoming more and more noticeable and there really is no denying it now.

I have noticed that the belly bumps into things. I seem to forget how far it sticks out. The belly also peeks out under my clothes sometimes. Shirts that have always had plenty of room in them are now tight and some times they ride up and my belly shows. When I am in Yoga I am very aware of the belly, it has a tendency to get in the way and I have to negotiate it in certain poses. When I curl up in bed the belly is between me and my husband and we have to take it into consideration when we hug and kiss. The cats are even aware of the belly. They like to lay on the belly and purr. I know the baby can hear or feel the purring because he reacts to it by kicking at the kitty.

My favorite part of relaxing is when you can see the belly move on it's own or jiggle from the movement. It is a very strange experience to have something inside of you moving independently. It is unpredictable and sometimes the strangest of sensations. Late at night when I am trying to sleep, sometimes I will wake up but not fully and really feel my little man moving around in there. It is strange and fearful all at the same time.

Right now the belly is only slightly uncomfortable but I can tell that things are only going to get worse. My favorite outfits are the ones that put no pressure on belly. So far dresses and overalls are my outfits of choice...!

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

The Diaper Decision: Cloth Diapers vs. Disposable Diapers

One of the things that my husband and I have spent some time thinking about are what kind of diapers we should use. This seems like such a silly debate to have...why would we spend very much time talking about this...well we want to be responsible and there has been a lot of hype about the negative affects of disposable diapers on the environment. We decided to do a little research and at least explore the idea of diaper alternatives. Since we live in LA there is no shortage of diaper services for cloth diapers and it isn't a problem to find stores that offer eco-friendly diapers, the issue of choosing an diaper alternative was not about completely about convenience.

These were some of the questions we asked when thinking about which type of diaper to choose:
A) Is one choice more cost effective than another?
B) Do the landfill benefits of cloth diapers really out weigh the water, energy, and chemical effects of cloth diapers?
C) What kind of issues do we face with cloth diapers verses disposable diapers?
D) Is one type of diaper healthier for our baby over another?
E) What kind of time commitment are we making in choosing cloth diapers over disposable?

The results we came across were rather surprising.  Here are some of the things we found that helped us to make this diaper decision.

 Cloth Diapers

My mother may have been the last generation that really embraced cloth diapers before the disposable diapers became so popular and accessible. My parents did not own a washer and dryer but when I was born they could only afford to buy one of the machines. They bought the dryer and made their way to the laundry mat for the washing...I understand not wanting to use your home washing machine for soiled diapers. My parents decision was mainly based on economic factors. They could not afford disposable diapers which were simply not affordable on my father's enlisted military budget.

Advanced Features: Since my birth their have been many advances in the world of cloth diapers. There are new and improved ways to make cotton absorbent and they have created liners that help control the "flow of waste". In big cities there are several diaper washing services available if you do not wish to wash the diapers yourself. It is reported that children who use cloth diapers have less diaper rash, this may be that the children are more aware of the wetness against their skin and cry sooner. The downside of cloth diapers  is that they still hold less liquid and therefore need to be changed more frequently. The upside to cloth diapers is that children who use them tend to potty train earlier because they are more aware of the wetness they experience in connection to the sensation they feel to go potty.

Think Carefully: In considering cloth diapers I thought long and hard about the scenario of using cloth diapers. I found a really great four part online cloth diaper tutorial which really helped me understand how they work and what I would be getting myself into. After the tutorial I realized that I personally do not wish to wash the diapers in my own washing machine. I also am not willing to go to my local laundry mat with my baby to wash and/or dry diapers (call me a snob if you like but I do live in LA). So for me a diaper service is the only way to go. It was also pointed out to me that cloth diapers require that you flush solid waste in the toilet first (breast feeders don't worry as much about solid waste but when baby starts to eat there are concerns). This makes sense but I am not sure that I can really see myself standing over my toilet with my baby on my hip while I flush the contents of the diaper. The older the child gets the less I can see myself having the time to spend laundering cloth diapers. There is a definite time commitment involved with cloth diapers. With cloth diapers you also have to consider the smell factor as they wait to be washed and the exposure to poop factor. With a disposable diaper I can quickly roll it up and trash it...with a cloth diaper...I may have the issue...  

Don't Forget Daddy: here is also my husband to consider in this situation. My husband is a very patient man but if we chose to use cloth diapers I would be the one taking on this commitment. I will be the one at home with the baby and he would much prefer the ease of disposable diapers. Since I definitely want my husband to help change diapers I want to make the process as "husband friendly" as possible. If I was at work all day and had to come home to a pile of stinking diapers that needed to be washed over simply taken to the trash can, I might be adverse to them as well...

Environmental Impact: The impact of a disposable diaper on the environment was the main reason for considering cloth diapers. So are they really better for the environment? Interestingly enough there are two schools of thoughts on whether or not they are truly better for the environment. The main argument made in favor of cloth diapers is that they do not have plastic components which do not biodegrade. The creation of a cloth diaper does not cause deforestation or pollute the air as a byproduct of creating them. Since they are made from cotton you can also buy organic materials which are still better for the environment. Cloth diapers are the most you can reuse and recycle.

The questions is do they really reduce? They reduce the amount of product in landfills, they reduce the number of trees cut down, and they are cleaner for the air because they do not require plastic. However, they do require water to be rinsed, soaked and washed. They also require harsh chemicals for sanitation and electricity (or natural gas depending on your machines system) to complete the cleaning cycle. The larger the load the more energy efficient you can be but in addition to the water and energy used just to clean the diapers there is also the energy cost to process and clean the water soiled by the cleaning process. The benefit to this process is that waste that goes into the water from the dirty diaper and the dirty water is correctly processed rather then dumped and left unprocessed in a landfill. In some cases the water can also be reclaimed but this is not as widely practiced as one might think because of human health concerns. If you choose to use a diaper service there is also the fuel and air pollution factors to consider. The truck delivery truck will require gas and will have to sit in traffic, this will not only negatively impact the air in CA but also the traffic.  

Special Environmental Concerns: In CA we have some special environmental considerations due to our desert climate. There is a water shortage in CA and we depend on aqueducts for our water and in many cities can only water our lawns on certain days and for strict time limits. In the summer we face an energy shortage due to the need for air conditioning. During the summer months we are asked to flex our power, which means that are asked not to use major appliances until after 7pm. When I consider this I can foresee a diaper crisis in the middle of a hot summer day. This is bound to happen regardless of how well I may time manage. To be a responsible, Earth-friendly citizen I also have to consider these factors.

What about cost? In our research we found that with a diaper service they rank about 4th place for cost effectiveness. Although the price of the service does not change much over time you will need them, they are slightly more expensive in the long run. In our area a diaper service picks up once a week, 80 diapers for $20 a week. A diaper service also requires higher start up costs because you have to purchase the diapers and or shells/covers. You may also need to buy replacement diapers and or shells/covers as they wear out or your child grows. Even if you launder the diapers yourself you are going to have the same higher start up costs and replacement costs as the child grows but you also have higher energy costs (gas and electricity) and materials (detergent and bleach). My husband also pointed out that washers and dryers are not cheap. The baby will already add to the wear and tear on our washing machine and dryer but cleaning diapers at home will increase the use of these expensive machines.

Lets not forget the time factor: Although I am not planning on returning to work for a few of years after our son is born there are still management issues with a new baby. I know we have all heard the argument that housewives work and I agree if you put a monetary value on the care your provide to your home, children, and husband you might be surprised at what your services are worth in the work force. I am blessed to have a husband who values my time and contributions to our family that being said, lets put a monetary value on your time, you can calculate that one load of diapers takes a minimum of 2 hours to process (soak, wash, dry, fold). You may find yourself doing 2-5 loads a week. You are then spending 4-10 hours just washing and caring for wage of $9.00 an hour (minimum wage in CA) that is $36-90 a week in labor not to mention washing materials and energy costs.

Disposable Diapers

The "green" people of the world will tell you that disposable diapers are one of the great banes of our Earth. There is a definite convenience factor when it comes to disposable diapers. They offer leakage protection that can not be argued. They hold more liquids and waste then cloth diapers. They require no special cleaning or schedule to follow (cloth diapers picked up by a service must be ready and out on time or you must also carve out the time to wash them if you do it yourself). It is, however, reported that more children get diaper rash with disposable diapers but babies with colic are reported to be less irritated and fussy because they are not bothered by a wet diaper as often.

Public Health Concerns: If you are planning on putting your child in daycare or even in the nursery at church there are health concerns with cloth diapers that requires children wear disposable diapers. The reason for this is simple, disposable diapers hold in the bacteria and waste better and they are thrown away rather than contained until washing. Disposable diapers are cleaner from a public health standpoint. With disposable diapers you do not have to revisit the poop so that you can clean the diaper or have to soak and wash the diaper. They are thrown away and not messed with again. Best of all, you do not have to worry about running out of diapers. Sure you can forget to buy them but a quick trip to an all night drugstore and you are no longer in serious doo-doo...sorry couldn't help myself.

Impact to the environment: The negative impact to the environment is undeniable. Opinions seem to differ on the length of time a plastic diaper spends in a landfill. Some studies say 200 years some say 500 years. Disposable diapers are made of plastic and paper. They are destructive to create and destructive to throw away. The plastic and inks used are toxic to create and have difficulty returning to the earth. The paper used to make them causes deforestation and some say adds to the carbon dioxide levels in the air. They also create a human waste processing problem in landfills which can cause water and ground contamination. Mainly because human waste is not being treated properly when the diaper goes to the landfill. Diaper companies are trying to make diapers that are made from recycled material, organic material, and materials that biodegrade better. Advances have been slow but some companies like Huggies are trying. However, there are not enough consumers to create a big enough demand to make the companies feel the squeeze to create better alternatives faster.

Cost Effectiveness: The cost of disposable diapers is awesome when compared to other alternatives. They are not only easier they are also cheaper. When my husband did a spread sheet of diaper costs (he didn't include wipes) disposable diapers were the most cost effective by far. If you have time or budget concerns disposable diapers are the only logical choice. Disposable diapers can also be price compared and you can be a savvy shopper by using coupons and bulk rates to save even more on them. Major diaper companies also offer rewards programs that help you save by sending you special coupons and rewarding your loyalty. Disposable diapers honestly make cloth diapers look like a luxury.

Eco-Friendly Diapers

First of all let me say that eco-friendly diapers are still disposable diapers. They are made in a way that reduces the materials needed to create them and in turn are better for the environment. In some cases they also biodegrade better. There seems to be some complaint that they are not as absorbent as regular disposable diapers. They do offer the same conveniences to parents and they are perfectly acceptable at daycare and nurseries. The two companies that seem to be a leader in eco-friendly disposable diapers is Huggies Pure and Natural and Seventh Generation.

What are my Options:
The Huggies Pure and Natural diapers are made from organic cotton, renewable materials and less ink. The liner of the diaper is recyclable. They are slightly more expensive than plastic disposable diapers but are better for the environment. Online ratings for these diapers are excellent and many people comment that they are super soft and hold the leaks in as well as plastic diapers. 

The Seventh Generation Diapers are Free of chlorine processing, fragrances, latex, and petroleum based lotions. They are more expensive than Huggies Pure and Natural by a dollar or two. They are also a little harder to find but are sold at Target. The online ratings for these diapers are not as favorable as their competitor listed above.

Cost Effectiveness: When it comes to cost these diapers rank in 3rd and 5th in cost effectiveness. They do cost a little more to buy and in some cases they may be harder to find. They are still better in price than cloth diapers. If you are concerned about the environment and would like to encourage larger diaper companies to keep developing this type of technology the slightly extra cost may be worth it to you. At this time it is worth it to us. They do not solve the problem of diaper pollution but at least I feel that I am taking a step in the right direction and encouraging corporate responsibility by buying them.

Reusable but also Disposable Diapers!?

I just came across this diaper a couple of days ago at Whole Foods Market. They are called gDiapers. When I saw them I asked myself: "Is it possible to have the best of both worlds?" Dare I to hope...

How do they Work: With gDiapers you buy the reusable shell or cover and you can either purchase compostable liners or washable liners. i love it when a company gives me options!!! The company also claims that with the gRefill liner (disposable liner) you can household compost one wet diaper in a single compost cycle (we don't have room for a compost system at our LA town home but the idea is nice). If you choose to use the gCloth then you can wash the liners at home (see above for commentary on washing cloth diapers at home). The shell is made from soft cotton and hemp and uses Velcro that attaches at the babies back to keep them away from babies hands.

Health Concerns: It is reported that babies using this product have less diaper rash because of the shell/cover is intended to breath and the liner is gentler on the skin. Since you can use the gRefill liner which can be thrown away this limits the human waste exposure concerns. I have not found any info on whether or not these gDiapers are acceptable in daycares and nurseries...

Environmental Impact: The same concerns apply for these diapers as with cloth and with the disposable liner (see above). If you use the gCloth you have the washing concerns, if you use the gRefill you don't have the same landfill concerns because they are compostable but there is still the issue of human waste in the landfills. The company recommends that you flush poop rather than throw it away to reduce this concern...but ultimately it is your choice. The impact of throwing the gRefill liner away is less abrasive to the environment. 

The Buzz: The comments that parents have left on these diapers is that the g Refills (disposable liners) do not attach to the shell and when baby becomes more active the liners tend to bunch up and move. This leads to some awkward messes. For the most part parents seem to really like this product. 

 Cost Effectiveness: The start up cost for these is a bit high. The shells/covers are not cheap! Putting the start up cost aside,  the g Refills which would be our preference are slightly more expensive than the eco-friendly diapers. In terms of cost effectiveness they ranked last at 6th place but may be less depending on the length of time we use them. Even though the cost is greater than even the eco-friendly diapers we are willing to give them a try since they are offering both convenience and reduced environmental impact. I had  to promise my husband that at the first signs of trouble we will move the the eco-friendly disposables...a fair compromise since I am also inclined the same way...

The Economics of the Matter

Here is the chart that my husband put together to show the the cost of diapers based on type. These numbers are based on prices for our area and bulk diaper rates. Since we knew that we were not interested in cloth diapers without a diaper service we did not go into detail with our utility costs for washing at home. For gDiapers the cost of buying the shells according to babies growth is factored in. The standard deviation is 10 diapers per week. This chart does factor in the difference in diapers for a newborn (approx. 70 a week) and diapers for a toddler (approx. 28). These numbers are based on what parents (or my husbands engineer co-workers) have reported as average use.

Our Decision

After my husband ran the numbers and we considered all of the in's and out's of cloth diapers we felt that cloth diapers really were not the right choice for us. At first, they look like they will be cheaper but in the long run not so much. Since we are in position that we could spend a little more on an eco-friendly diaper and there are savings options available; this was our first choice. When I found gDiapers I was able to get my husband to consider them. He is willing to give gDiapers a try because he can throw the liners away. Although, the shells will need to be washed, this is an undertaking I feel okay with because I will be able to wash them in the same load as the babies soiled clothes. We are both apprehensive about messes and may change course when our son becomes more active.

Our thoughts are that gDiapers may be more realistic for us in the very beginning and when our son is potty training. Since I already shop at Whole Foods Market for my produce I will not have to go out of my way to purchase gDiapers either. As with all things concerning children, we will give gDiapers a try (with the disposable gRefills only) but if it doesn't work we will change course and try something different.

Here are some links that we found helpful when making the diaper decision:

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

For a Wanted Child

My Mother-in Law sent me this poem a few weeks ago and I wanted to share it here with all you. It is a beautiful poem and I have found it very inspirational when I am having a bad pregnancy day. When all the symptoms of pregnancy are getting me down or I am feeling the pain the sacrifice of pregnancy brings this poem reminds me to treasure this time as a gift and a blessing.

For A Wanted Child

Oh, God, thank you for the child I carry.
I am in love with it as I am in love with my husband and my life – and you.
I walk the world in wonder. I see it through new eyes.
All is changed, subtly but singly different. The beauty of sunlight upon the grass, the feel of its warmth along my arms. It is cradling me in tenderness as I shall cradle this child one day.
I am mother and child in one, new as a child myself, innocent, excited, amused, surprised.

I marvel at my changing body. It is as sweet and new to me as when I was a little girl. Even its symptoms are less of misery or fatigue than signals of its secret. “See how important I am,” my body claims. “Feel my insistence as I make and shape this child for you.”
God, I am happy. God, I am sad. God, I am vital – alive, alive. Life has me in its hands. Life is moving me in an immutable direction that I don’t want to resist and couldn't if I tried.
It is almost comical, this sweet and stern insistence. It is like night and day and the changing of seasons. “Stop, stop!” I might as well cry to the winds or the sea.
No, no, I am for it now, and I rejoice, though I am also a little bit afraid. The labor, the delivery, the care. But it is an exciting kind of anxiety. It is the part of the privilege of being female.

Oh, God, bless this body in which the mystery of life is working. Let it be equal to its job.
And bless the tiny marvel it is responsible for. Your handiwork! Oh, bless my baby too – let it be whole and beautiful and strong.

-Author Unknown-

Sunday, September 11, 2011

A Little Mama Humor

For Mother's Day Tina Fey and Maya Rudolf did a funny song on motherhood. I did not see this episode on Mother's Day but it was rerun this weekend. I cracked me up and I wanted to share it with you. It made me laugh and reminded me that we have to keep things into perspective while we are pregnant or we can get carried away with all the things that may be troubling us during this time.

I hope you enjoy!

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Leg Cramps & Coconut Water

One of the great joys of pregnancy that I began to experience in week 24 was painful debilitating leg cramps. I was really upset to have this added to my list of pregnancy wonders, especially because I have exercised and taken my vitamins just as I was told. When I talked to my doctor she suggested that I drink coconut water. I was a little surprised that this was what the doc suggested but I was in so much pain I was willing to try anything. It worked wonderfully and has some really great benefits other then just stopping my leg cramps. It turns out that coconut water is a natural laxative, it can also help regulate blood pressure, and it when you are breastfeeding it is said to improve the quality of your breast milk.

When ever possible I drink coconut water straight from the coconut! There is a Whole Foods market near my yoga studio that cuts the top off the young coconut and all I have to do is stick a straw in it and drink up. The picture below was taken at my local farmers market where they also keep them on ice. Coconut water tastes much better this way and doesn't need to be mixed with other juices when it is straight from the source. You can even put the lime in the coconut and sing the silly song as you drink it down...hehe!

 Unfortunately, I couldn't drink coconut water from a can all by itself so I had to come up with a way to mask the taste. Below are some ways that you can get your coconut water in and not have to suffer through the taste.

Coconut Water Freeze

1 can/or carton of Coconut Water
1/4 Cup Frozen Berries
1 Spoonful of Concentrated Orange Juice
1-2 Spoonfuls of Greek Yogurt or Cool Whip lite
1 Dollop of Honey (to taste)

Add all the ingredients above to the blender and enjoy!

Coconut Water Slushie

1 can/Carton of Coconut Water
1/2 Tsp to 1Tsp Coconut Extract
1 Cup Pineapple Juice
1/2 Cup Pineapple chunks
1/2 Cup Orange Juice or 2 Tbsp of orange juice concentrate
6-8 Ice Cubes
* Sugar or honey as needed

Add all the ingredients above to the blender and enjoy!